So, this one might fall more into the advice category than anything else. But one of the hardest lessons I have had to learn in the 25 years (minus a day) of my marriage was that every decision I made was going to affect my wife. The little, the big, the stupid, the insane, the crazy… every one of them.
Early on, we established a rule about buying things. A certain dollar amount required both of us to say yes. Anything huge decision, we would walk away from and come back too. No need in having emotions wrapped up in something like that.
And on the note of emotions and decisions…
NEVER make a decision when you are emotional.
NEVER say something that is final when emotional.
NEVER do something you know you are going to regret when emotional.
You can quote me on that (see, cause I already did).
Now, I know in this new, hip world of words that just don’t mean the same thing they did back when I was growing up, let me make sure I translate this one for all you kids out there.
Never means not ever. It’s kind of like a contraction in that way… So, you get it?
Guys, I’m looking at you on this one just as much as the girls, because, here’s a secret most men will never share… men are more emotional than women.
Think about it. When was the last time a woman went to war for love?
Anyway, like I said, this is more like “advice from a guy who has somehow been lucky enough to stay married to a woman who is so much better than he is”.
I must be doing something right… but for the life of me, I have no idea what it is.